I hear you sister! I believe that if we love someone, we want our loved one to be pleasured. And ladies we all know that we've done it when we really didn't feel like it. If your partner wants you to have pleasure, he may have to work with you to make it happen. That could include estrogen creams and other tsoy related devices to help you. You may not get there the way you formerly did, but you may just get there. A side benefit is that it will make you closer in the proces. Don't give up!

Umm I cannot relate to this exactly but do know since ms it takes a lot more to fulfill that desire if you will.Where before it was on demand . With this being said switch things up ,be very spontaneous and open up to new things it helps!Especially trying to work that libido up sometimes you just need a little more "playing" use that imagination to get you there. On your bad days there's always intimacy. You can still enjoy each other in many ways. Hope this helps. 😉💖🙃

I find stimulating yourself first while they watch helps maybe talk dirty im 30 been with my husband since i was 18 libido can be on and off but we try different things you also need to be relaxed which is hard (excuse the pun 😂) i kno
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My spouse is 18 years my senior but still very active. I started having the same problems and he thought it was our age difference / it was hard to convince him it was related to my medical issues. I was blessed that he is open minded enough to explore ways to make sure I feel as good as he does. Vibrators and gels go a long way in waking up the go-go. Toys aren't as taboo as they once were, even for folks in their 60's and 70's. Yay sexual revolution!

I hope this helps.
MSF 18 Sexual Problems
In a recent study, 63 percent of people with MS reported that their sexual activity had declined since their diagnosis. Other surveys of persons with MS suggest that as many as 91 percent of men and 72 percent of women may be affected by sexual problems. Ignoring these problems can lead to major losses in quality of life. Yet both individuals and healthcare professionals are often slow to bring up the subject.
Emotional changes
The emotional factors relating to changes in sexual function are quite complex. They may involve loss of self-esteem, depression, anxiety, anger and/or the stress of living with a chronic illness. Counseling — for both partners — by a mental health professional or trained sexual therapist can address both physiologic and psychological issues.
Treating sexual problems
Both men and women with MS may experience difficulty achieving orgasm or loss of libido. They and their partners can benefit from instruction in alternative means of sexual stimulation, such as the use of a vibrator, to overcome slow arousal and impaired sensation. Abnormal sensations and spasms can often be controlled through use of medication. Techniques such as intermittent catheterization or medication can control urinary leakage during intercourse.
Men may additionally have difficulty achieving or maintaining an erection (by far the most common problem), reduced sensation in the penis and difficulty achieving ejaculation. Erectile dysfunction may be addressed through:
• Use of the oral medications Viagra® (sildenafil), Levitra® (vardenafil) or Cialis® (tadalafil).
• Injectable medications such as papaverine and phentolamine that increase blood flow in the penis
• The MUSE® system which involves inserting a small suppository into the penis.
• Inflatable devices or implants.
Women may experience:
• reduced sensation in the vaginal/clitoral area or
• painfully heightened sensation, and
• vaginal dryness. Vaginal dryness can be relieved by using liquid or jellied, water-soluble personal lubricants which can be purchased over-the-counter. It is a common mistake to use too little of these products; specialists advise using them generously. Petroleum jelly (Vaseline®) should not be used because it is not water-soluble and may cause infection.