Iโm sorry his depression is winning.
August 3
@A MyMSTeam Member i agree with you
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August 4
@A MyMSTeam Member good idea
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August 5
talk to his PCP about him seeing a psychiatrist.. one of the first DMTs gave me anxiety which mimmic'd depression
August 4
It sounds really frustrating, and it's completely understandable to feel that way. What might look like "not listening" could actually be a common MS symptom called attention difficulty โ where the brain struggles to fully process and retain what's being said, even when the person is looking right at you.
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It sounds really frustrating, and it's completely understandable to feel that way. What might look like "not listening" could actually be a common MS symptom called attention difficulty โ where the brain struggles to fully process and retain what's being said, even when the person is looking right at you.
This means your husband may genuinely not be registering your requests, not ignoring them on purpose. Here are a few things that might help:
- Get close and make eye contact before making a request, to help him focus
- Keep requests short and simple โ one thing at a time
- Use written reminders like a whiteboard or sticky notes as a backup
- Set a routine for hygiene tasks so they become automatic habits
- Gently follow up rather than repeating the request from another room
It's also worth having an open, honest conversation with him about how you're feeling. Many care partners quietly carry fear and frustration without saying anything โ and often the person with MS is doing the same. Sharing your feelings can open up a really meaningful moment between you both. If hygiene is becoming a consistent concern, it may be worth mentioning to his neurologist, as it can sometimes be connected to MS-related fatigue, depression, or cognitive changes. You don't have to navigate this alone! ๐
August 3