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Manlius, NY

The one constant with MS is there is NO CONSTANT!!! While we have some symptoms in common, no two people experience MS the same way. To that end, it drives me batty when I meet people who know someone (a cousin, wife's sister, friend of a friend, man down the street) who was diagnosed X years ago and "is just fine." "Don't worry about it, she doesn't feel anything." Or "God only gives you what you can handle." or "If you pray more it will be better."

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Members connected over the frustration of hearing unhelpful comments about MS, particularly when people dismiss symptoms, compare their own... Read more

Members connected over the frustration of hearing unhelpful comments about MS, particularly when people dismiss symptoms, compare their own minor ailments, suggest unproven cures, or assume all cases progress the same way. Several members described practical coping strategies, including educating others when possible, sharing resources like the Spoon Theory, using humor to deflect insensitive remarks, and sometimes choosing not to disclose their diagnosis to avoid judgment. A recurring theme was finding validation and understanding within the community when family, friends, and even medical professionals fail to grasp the invisible symptoms and unpredictability.

A MyMSTeam Member

Why are you always tired? Then they add in well you are either getting too much sleep or not enough for your body. My other rage moment is when a coworker complains how tired or sick they are (cold type) to me when I can't see straight out of one eye, I'm falling or running into walls, and have absolutely no feeling in my hands. I'm working 4 days 12 hour shifts 7pm-7am and still trying to take care of my family. Yet I still come to work do my job and don't complain!!

October 27, 2013
A MyMSTeam Member

People will say " stupid" things, because they don't know what else to say. In general when people know you have any type of illness, they get uncomtable and say weird stuff.

October 27, 2013
A MyMSTeam Member

It's not so much what they say, as how they look at me. I get out of my car in a handicap zone (and admittedly some days I look "normal") and you can read their faces: What's wrong with YOU? YOU look okay to me. I feel like saying, hey! You take my MS and you can have my parking permit!!!!!

October 31, 2013
A MyMSTeam Member

I have secondary progressive MS and I am still amazed when close friends think you can do what do did - like shop for hours, walk normally, everyday chores, etc. They have no clue about the meds, the shots, the mood swings, the insomnia, the bad dreams, the doctor appointments, the PT appts.

October 31, 2013
A MyMSTeam Member

@ twinsmom98.. I had my hubby, daughter, son, and grandson have a day in my wheelchair. They had to fix dinner. And when they had finshed for the day, they were too tired to eat. :D I told them, "sit a while in my chair." NOW they know what it is like..Not FUN.....

October 29, 2013

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