Definitely not crass. I attempt almost every time to explain to my husband to not feel like a failure because I don't orgasm. I think last one I had was in 96. I still have sex drive but has slowed a bit. I really don't have a problem with any of it. I explain to my husband that I don't care about it as I still enjoy the closeness with him. The only thing I can suggest is great foreplay and possible addition of sexual toys. Just whatever you and sexual partner are comfortable with.

Not crass - honest. I agree with Roxann: discover toys. :) I thought my hubby would be offend but not so. He was far more please with a new responsiveness from me than offended by my need for help. Make that addition fun for both.

I have problems having an orgasm. I take Zoloft which is an anti-depressant and a side effect is hard to have orgasm. I take estratest half-strength so I have desire. I do have them sometimes with more foreplay and if I'm not too tired.

Brandy this is not a crass or offensive question, there may be others that don't feel comfortable enough to ask ( so u are helping them). I don't really have any suggestions but I'm sure now the question is out there u will have many great responses. :-)

...not a crass question at all--had much the same issue at the height of my latest flare-up in addition to the parathesia, vision issues, and difficulty swallowing (Her Majesty MS really let me have it this time).
Oddly, when all other symptoms are difficult to explain properly to others who do not have the condition, and many descriptions do not really do credit to how uncomfortable many of the symptoms actually are--when you mention to others that you cannot climax, well, that's a relatable issue...