Everyday I eat a big salad of dark leaf greens which includes squash & beets for lunch &.dinner. Plus a mug of plain green tea with honey. Also do one hour of chair aerobics each day. Constipation cured.

Think of it as giving yourself a window while the oatmeal processes.

It happens. I use Poise pads or equivalent but have seriously considered the incontinence underwear, especially for night and "those days". 5 was the third time I go up and the last. I have bad days and good days

Sounds good Diane799 but I really struggle with eating as I have to prepare or be in the mood for it. Yes I know 😌 eating well is important but it takes energy to make or go to the shops aswell especially since signals to eat regularly aren't there. I just feel sick if I get forced to eat if I don't want to. I apparently have disordently eating and have to have full control over my food and what goes into it. Different from an eating disorder as I eat but on my terms and only when I'm hungry. I will go all day without anything substantial as I don't have any time or signals to eat. I eat with my family at dinner time 🙈 is anyone else having the same issues 😳
I get nagged at for not eating during the day but I can if I want to.

You might want to try ingesting caffeine in a different form than coffee. Something they will not put strain on your bladder