We were planning this dinner for close friends at a restaurant that would require me to 'walk' over 50 feet, I NEED MY WHEELCHAIR, I mean right?
But she got a reservation upstairs.
What do you think I should do?
What would you do?
I literally cannot walk that far but would lose my dignity trying to get upstairs?
Hello @A MyMSTeam Member, perhaps your friend just didn’t realise what you’d need. I remember complaining to a friend about a colleague who hadn’t thought of my needs. My friend said ‘but Marie, how does he know what you need if you haven’t told him?’ That made me stop and think - I spent all my time trying to show I can do anything, nothing stops me, I don’t want/need help that I hadn’t realised I was preventing others from helping when I actually did need help. Does that make sense? Perhaps if you speak honestly to your friend and open up about what you need, everything will be resolved and you can have a great time with friends 🤗💜
First of all, your need for a wheelchair is completely valid. Using a mobility aid isn't a loss of dignity — it's a smart, safety-first decision that lets you actually enjoy the evening rather than suffer through it.
The goal here isn't just "getting upstairs." The goal is having a wonderful dinner with friends. Those are Show Full Answer
I was gonnna say if your friend doesn't get you have some things that are harder for you sometimes and a little understanding and support is needed mb they aren't as good a friend as you thought.🧐
I was just going to ask if they had elevator, as @A MyMSTeam Member mentioned. 🤗
Can you or your friend call the restaurant to see if they can accommodate you ? They might be able to switch it to the first floor. Maybe they have an elevator or ramp . Mention it to your friend and see what she says .