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May 7
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A MyMSTeam Member

can you elaborate and give an example?

May 8
MyMSTeam

That's a really thought-provoking question! It touches on something many people with MS reflect on β€” the sense that they were always the strong, selfless ones before diagnosis.

From a medical standpoint, MS develops due to a complex mix of genetic and environmental factors. It isn't caused by personality traits or Show Full Answer

That's a really thought-provoking question! It touches on something many people with MS reflect on β€” the sense that they were always the strong, selfless ones before diagnosis.

From a medical standpoint, MS develops due to a complex mix of genetic and environmental factors. It isn't caused by personality traits or emotional patterns. So scientifically, "givers" aren't more likely to get MS than anyone else. However, philosophically and emotionally, there's something worth exploring here. Many people with MS do notice a pattern β€” they spent years putting others first, hiding their own struggles, and keeping a brave face.

Interestingly, research shows that many people with MS tend to hide their symptoms and fears from loved ones, often to protect them. So perhaps the "secret keeper" identity doesn't cause MS, but may reflect how many people *respond* to having it.

It might be worth asking: could this be an invitation to finally receive care, rather than always give it? Sometimes MS has a way of rewriting that story.

May 7
A MyMSTeam Member

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May 11
A MyMSTeam Member

I am the same as you! You described it better than me. An I was born in fight or flight mode πŸ˜‚ @A MyMSTeam Member

May 11
A MyMSTeam Member

I think I get what you mean. Like why do bad things happen to good people?? Personally, I have always been a perfectionist and a people pleaser, it causes stress in the body and keeps you in fight or flight.

May 11

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